These next few blog posts will be a little different than normal. I’m going to be sharing my process with you because I’m going through major, multiple losses in my life right now and I get the feeling if I share my process this will help you, too.
In this series of blogs, I’ll be exploring the themes of loss and life transition, and the grief that accompanies that experience. When we think about grief, we usually think of someone passing away. But in fact, grief is a natural and normal part of any big loss. This blog series will focus on the grieving and mourning process of “other” losses, and how you can still run your personal life and your work life… it won’t just focus on death and dying.
Before I dive in, I want to be boldly transparent with you. Whenever I write blogs, I usually feel like I have to have the answer all tied up with a bow but this blog series will be different. I don’t really have a clear-cut easy answer on how to deal with transition and loss. I’m writing this blog series because I’m experiencing multiple major losses in my life right now, and I’m going to be sharing my process with you. I also want to put it out there and hear from you, readers, how you deal with loss and what transitions you go through that perplex you and how you deal with them, so we can help each other as a community.
As I begin, it’s important to understand something about me. My community – friends, neighbors, family, social support systems – are the most important thing in my life. I need them to survive and thrive. And when someone exits my community for whatever reason, it impacts me. Hard.
So here’s what I’m facing. In the past month, I’ve had five friends move or announce they’re moving. I’m facing the issue of having to cope with the grief of the loss because when people move far away they tend to phase out of your life and you have a hole you have to fill. You also have the issue of dealing with that emotion when you need to get work done, which I think we all know isn’t always easy.
So here I am, in somewhat of a shocked and numb state – processing the fact that I will soon be losing five friends that are dear to my life. I’m trying to understand what that will mean for my community… and how to grieve that loss… and how to honor my friendships with these people while they’re still here. All while trying to focus on my business and get work done.
That’s my question for this month.
How do you honor your losses and move forward at the same time?
Send me an email or comment below and let me know your answer!